This last week has been frightfully busy. By the Lord’s grace, as soon as my job at the school paused for Christmas, my Janitor Contractors boss took time off giving me a 6 day work week. I learned bus schedules, did a lot of walking, had lots of good conversations, and did lots of reflecting. In fact, some special circumstances in my life have led to ask an important question- What am I looking for in a woman?
After a few days of asking questions, seeking wisdom from younger and older men, self-examination, and prayer, I’ve nailed down the essentials. Since I’ve always been a qualitative thinker, my standards are qualities too. Essential qualities. These are the things I can’t do without, bar extraordinary circumstances. I have a lot of other preferences too, but none of those are deal-breakers.
Maybe you should do the same, guys and girls included. How can you get what you want if you don’t know what you’re looking for?
A woman who…
Has learned to live beautifully.
Treasures her temple (mind, body, and soul) and trains it vigorously.
Carries herself with grace and dignity.
Inspires awe and reverence with her presence.
Will not tolerate anything less than the best I have.
Speaks with wisdom and kindness.
Is strong and wise enough to be independent, yet gracious enough to depend on me.
Honors me by allowing me to devote myself to her.
Is passionate about knowing Christ.
Commits herself to something and sees it through.
A truly good wife
is the most precious treasure
a man can find!
Her husband depends on her, and she never
lets him down.
She is good to him every day of her life,
and with her own hands she gladly makes clothes.
She is like a sailing ship that brings food
from across the sea.
She gets up before daylight to prepare food for her family
and for her servants.
She knows how to buy land and how to plant a vineyard,
and she always works hard.
She knows when to buy or sell, and she stays busy
until late at night.
She spins her own cloth,
and she helps the poor and the needy.
Her family has warm clothing, and so she doesn’t worry
when it snows.
She does her own sewing, and everything she wears
Her husband is a well-known and respected leader
in the city.
She makes clothes to sell to the shop owners.
She is strong and graceful, as well as cheerful
about the future.
Her words are sensible, and her advice
She takes good care of her family
and is never lazy.
Her children praise her, and with great pride
her husband says,
“There are many good women, but you are the best!”
Charm can be deceiving, and beauty fades away,
but a woman
who honors the Lord deserves to be praised.
Show her respect— praise her in public
for what she has done. (Proverbs 31:10-31 CEV)